Follow to lead
Leadership is no easy thing. Especially whe your people feel empowered. Oftentimes, leaders feel that they must lead by fear or by favour - and not both. The fear is that the choice is in your people either fearing and hating you, or in them being too forward (backtalk, over-criticize etc) and love you. In my own professional life, I have found it most rewarding to empower people, and for those you have high regard for, driving them hard, pushing them hard, keep their bar extra high so that they get tough fast - a baptism of fire so to speak.
They never like it as they are going through it. When I was going through my own baptism of fire - I am still going through one in some of the things I am doing, I hated it. I would lose nights wishing my mentor was dead - as I worked through out the night to finish what he had ordered me to do. That said, there is something to be said for how to be a good mentee, to follow a leader. It calls for great energy not to be seen to sit on the same pedestal as your leader - afterall, you must at best sit at their feet. Half the time one wants to respond, correct them, show them how to be the leaders we would prefer - or at least feedback on their style and how it affects you. To keep that to yourself - and ensure that they cannot overtly see it in your actions, your expression, your tone or your words is a true test of patience and a testimony to your growth. My experience with one mentor, who was a boss and who inadvertently took an interest in me because I was overtly in need of knowledge from them, was a difficult one. He, my mentor, would make me work twice as hard as everyone else in the team, make me think twice as hard, push me twice as hard with ridicules and jeers - he really tried to make us loose our temper or confidence... Life around him was a constant pain. We all complained and grumbled. Until one day a few weeks into the ordeal, I decided that I would not complain any longer and I would work hard to please him and eventually anticipate him... Within a month, I had achieved it - and his abuse increased as did my areas of responsibility. The rest of the team angrily complained... A few years later, I was up for an award for excellent executives in my field. To announce the prize, was my mentor who said. "I am proud to know this man. He worked for me once and I was the world's worst boss. His humility and resiience sparked a resourcefulness that is now associated with him. Everyone else complained and argued. Others quit. He, adapted and survived. Today, he is among the most aggressive and astute professionals of our time." That statement was all I needed - I knew I had passed.